Relationship Danger Signs and What To Do About It

Hi Everyone!  First I want to wish everyone a "Happy Holidays".  And second I want to help you avoid the pitfalls of relationship disaster.  It's no secret, the stress of the holidays can damage your marriage.  Instead of enjoying each other and your family, you find yourselves having more arguments and feeling overwhelmed due to expectations.

Here are some of the danger signs to watch out for under the stress of needing to do and spend money on all that is expected for this time of year.

• Becoming irritable with everyone and everything
• Avoiding your partner
• Yelling at one another over small incidents
• Becoming defensive - And not listening with your third ear
• Feeling sad or depressed
• Drinking more than usual

What You Can Do About It

• Talk over your expectations (of the holidays) with each other; taking turns and listening with your 'third' ear.
• Talk about money and how much you both are comfortable spending and decide what the number will be with reason.
• Remind each other that it is okay to say, "no".
• Come to terms that the holiday probably won't be perfect
• Stay positive and see what you are and have done instead of looking at what has not been done. Then get 'cracking' with a plan to do it and help the other!